How To Cultivate Your Femininity


You don’t have to be taught HOW to be feminine. The truth is, you know how instinctually. The learning process comes into play in learning how to drop your protective barrier that keeps you from being the natural you.

The core quality of femininity is openness. Feminine energy takes it all in, is vulnerable, nurturing, welcoming, energetic and able to feel everything and enjoys the ebb and flow of a wide range of emotions. It is a woman’s ultimate power; femininity is NOT a weakness. Just ask Super Woman! She is full of power, yet incredibly feminine.

Consider cultivating your femininity in your personal life through taking care of yourself, taking bubble baths, listening to romantic music, laughing, burning candles, using incense and perfume, or putting on your favorite soft or silky outfit.

Ask yourself questions like: How open am I on a regular basis on a scale of 1 to 10? In what ways do I shut down to protect myself? How do I pull away, care less and distance myself?

Shift From External to Internal

As women, we experience continuous pressure to do more with less all while looking perfect. In a society that privileges physical beauty, it’s easy to get caught up in the rat race of striving for external perfection. It’s time to look within. Put forth the intention of shedding that negative self-talk (i.e., “she’s prettier, skinnier and more perfect than me”) to discover the balance of your inner beauty. Mindfulness is the gateway into the temple of your deepest gifts in this life ~ the essence of who you are.

Mindfulness has the amazing capacity to be the Yin to our Yang (our over-scheduled-iPhone-crazed-hurried lives). Practicing mindfulness can create a greater sense of inner peace, emotional balance and joy by being in acceptance of the present moment experience without judgment. It’s energizing to realize we hold power to increase our sense of internal beauty as we tap into our innate feminine power.

Smile Through Your Heartspace

Happiness is a woman’s greatest accessory. When we smile from the inside out, beauty radiates from us, and people gravitate towards us. Imagine the bright, radiating sun on a stormy day. Although grey and ominous clouds blanket the sky, the sun continues to reside behind the clouds, emanating with warmth. Imagine your heart as the radiant sun and the clouds as stress, insecurity, and self-destructive thoughts. When our hearts are clouded, our inner light feels dim, and it becomes difficult to connect with ourselves and others.

Ask and You Shall Receive

Women, by their very nature, can receive and give back more than men. If you receive love, you can return it tenfold. And woe betides if you are crossed. Your anger will be amplified towards the person who hurt or betrayed you.

The issue for women is when you have a problem with receiving, it’s usually associated with the feeling you aren’t good enough. Or you have low self-esteem. Your feminine power to receive means if you ask for more, you will receive more. If you are struggling with this, you need to ask yourself:

*Why am I having a problem with receiving?

*What does my ability to receive mean in the context of my life?

*Is there something in my past which has stopped me from feeling worthy of receiving now?

*Was there an occasion where I felt I was manipulated after receiving something?

There is nothing wrong with asking for favors and support when you need it. And there is nothing wrong with receiving a compliment. Embrace it! Enjoy receiving from mother nature as well. By standing on grass for five minutes, or just touching a tree, you can receive the beauty of the world around you. This will put you in a more positive and calmer mindset.

Get Creative

Your feminine energy craves personal creativity because it’s a creative force. Dancing is a great way to get yourself into this zone. All you need to do is get creative, do things like painting, pottery, writing, crochet; any form of creation that will enable you to tap into your feminine energy.

You will feel a sense of freedom and relaxation as you do so. It’s all about expressing your flow. Women were physically designed to create new life. Harnessing your inner creativity is a way of allowing that inner energy you have to burst forth.

Activate and Allow Your Playful Side

If you are joyful and positive, you will be lighter and more adept at tackling anything the world throws at you. Our lives today are lived at a million miles an hour, and we juggle a multitude of projects and tasks. Downtime and connection have taken second place to getting things done.

If you prioritize relaxation in your life, even for just five minutes a day, you will connect to that feminine energy. You can read a book, do some yoga or meditate. Allow for ‘playtime’ in your life. It shouldn’t just be about the tasks at hand. If you can, give yourself a ‘free day’ when you just go with the moment.

Embrace Transformation

Feminine energy enables you to transform. If you are stagnating, then you feel uninspired, tired, and overworked, personally and professionally.

Allow your inner power to come through and make the changes you need to move on to a better place in your life. Don’t be afraid to walk away from something if it isn’t working for you. There is a lot to be said for familiarity breeds contempt. While feminine energy is often associated with quiet rejuvenation, it can also be bold and forceful.

Change is sometimes painful, but it’s necessary to move to the point of regrowth. That’s when the real creativity can happen.

Do You Believe You Are Living in a Man’s World?

There is a lot to be said for ditching the phrase ‘living in a man’s world.’ If you believe that we are in a society dominated by patriarchy that will become a reality in your own life. By acknowledging that, you are adding more fuel to the fire. When you look around you, you will only see men in high positions, women being subjugated, and the social dynamic dominated by males. You will be blinded by the fewer opportunities, the fairer sex, (that’s you) have at their disposal and the disparities in that.

And when you look on social media, all you will see is negative posts. Instead, look at the ‘man’s world’ and view it as an opportunity to breakthrough. You need to train yourself NOT to buy into those myths and instead incant and train your brain to think the opposite (i.e. what you desire). Yes, there are challenges, but at no other time in our culture have the prospects been as good for the rise of the feminine and for women to get what they want.

If you want something and pursue your passion and purpose, you will empower yourself. Women have more rights than ever before. We now manage businesses, achieve our dreams, have children, and look after the home. We’re even running countries and being praised for our approach.

A great example of this is Jacinda Ardern, the Prime minister of New Zealand. She not only smashed the coronavirus with her lockdown measures but gave a TV briefing during an earthquake and didn’t even flinch! She also had a baby while in office (the second leader of a country worldwide to do so) and went back to work six weeks later. In fact, with role models like that, some of you would say we are almost setting the bar too high!

Your feminine energy is always there, even if you aren’t aware of it. You have compassion, creativity, and intuition at the core of your being. Reawaken your ability to be sensitive, tender, and nurturing. It will make you unstoppable. Check out the video below for more feminine tips.

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